Children Need to Be Adopted

One evening after I had finished speaking to a gathering of men, a huge, burly man came up to talk to me. The guy was a mountain; I could picture him chewing up quarterbacks and spitting them out. My first instinct was to run, but as he got closer I noticed that there...

Shining Examples of Care and Concern

November 20 is a holiday that gets too little attention: National Adoption Day. This is its 11th annual celebration. According to an official statement from the White House, this is an effort to “lift up adoption as a positive and powerful force in the lives of...

Can I really bond with this child?

Those who have never adopted a child may ask, “Can I really bond with a child who isn’t biologically mine?” Like nearly all adoptive fathers, Bruce went through the lengthy paperwork and months of waiting, praying, and trying to be patient. Then one...

Adoption: The New Country of Fatherhood

Biskek, Kyrgyzstan. The name of that foreign city went through my mind over and over as I lay in bed. Biskek, Kyrgyzstan. Panic gripped me as I kept wondering why I had applied for a job in a country about which I knew nothing. I had battled a similar kind of panic...

A Salute to Non-Biological Dads

Have you taken your kids for granted recently? Have your kids been getting on your nerves? Are you feeling like you don’t have energy to carry out your fathering duties? Maybe you have better things to do? Maybe you feel like you put in a lot of time as a dad...

Claim Your Children

Nothing—not even the nasty comment of a meddling aunt—would keep Roy from claiming his daughter. When Roy married his wife, she had a young daughter from a previous marriage. Roy adopted her as his own, and then, in what seemed like no time, the couple had five more...