Many of you know Wayne Simien as a former All-American basketball player from Kansas who was also a first-round draft pick in the NBA—and collected a ring as a member of the Miami Heat in 2006. But if that’s all you know about him, you only know a small part of his story.
Just last month, I had the privilege of hosting Wayne at our office, and he is one impressive guy—besides the fact that he’s 6’9” and probably 250 pounds. He’s even more impressive because of his character and his commitment to not only be a great husband and father to his four children, but also because he has a passion to help other dads embrace the joy of fatherhood.
He says, “It’s one of the most joyful things that you could ever be a part of.” Please watch the 4-minute video below. I know Wayne’s comments will challenge you …
If you’re a young dad, his perspective will be valuable to you because your situation is probably not that different from his. If you’re a veteran dad,Wayne’s comments might provide a needed wake-up call about the joys and the privilege of being a dad. Have you been taking those things for granted?
In either case, please share this with another dad you know. Make sure other dads “don’t miss the joy” of being a dad, as Wayne says.
Ultimately, being a dad isn’t about pursuing things that make us feel good; it’s all about loving, coaching and modeling for the benefit of our children. But there’s also a lot of joy that comes as a by-product of being a committed father.
What’s your greatest source of joy as a father? Please let us know in the comments below or on our Facebook page.
Action Points for Joyful Fathers:
- Find joy in the everyday actions of being a dad! Really be present with your kids no matter what you’re doing together.
- Tell your child how much joy he or she brings you. Say something like, “Wow, I just love being your dad.”
- Smile and make crazy, joy-filled faces for your baby to imitate.
- Show excitement the moment your child walks in the room; be eager to go out and shoot hoops, play catch, kick the soccer ball, or whatever your child enjoys. Also, let your kids inspire you to new acts of father-child fun—water balloon battles, corny knock-knock joke fests, mixing up a strange concoction in the kitchen, making a silly video together, etc.
- Pursue activities that draw you and your child together—an hour at a playground, a breakfast date, a bike ride, a shared hobby, a weekend camping trip, or just a trip to the corner ice cream shop.
- Once you’ve really “embraced the joy” of being a dad, show your excitement as you tell another dad about the aspects of fatherhood that bring you joy.
Carey Casey is the CEO of the National Center for Fathering, a nonprofit organization dedicated to changing the culture of fathering in America by enlisting 6.5 million fathers who to make the Championship Fathering Commitment. NCF believes that every child needs a dad they can count on, and uses its resources to inspire and equip men to be the involved fathers, grandfathers and father figures their children need. Subscribe to his weekly email tip by clicking here: “Yes! I want tips on how to be a great dad who loves, coaches, mentors, and inspires my children.