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The annual Father's Day news release by the U.S. Census Bureau presents some interesting statistics related to the holiday: As of 2007, there were 8,610 men's clothing stores in the United States, 14,193 hardware stores, and 23,756 sporting goods stores. Last year, around 76 million Americans participated in a barbecue, and of course many of those happened on Father's Day. The report also includes some more significant statistics about fatherhood.
Father's Day has a way of bursting through any barriers around my heart and releasing my feelings to splash all over the page before me. A gift of a tear or two to cleanse the soul–or at least, my soul ….
Spring gives us opportunities to recognize deserving kids and dads as part of our Father of the Year Essay Contests. We have identified winning essays written by kids in four markets around the country, and we're in the process of choosing dads who will be honored as finalists and Fathers of the Year.
Where are you in your relationship with your father? Surely some of you reading today don't want to think about your dad because there's too much pain there. Maybe you're thinking, What good would it do? Others have a good relationship with dad, but there’s a lot of room for improvement.
I remember when I first became aware of my out-of-control father-anger. One frigid winter morning when I was 15, my mother woke me to go with her to the welfare office on Chicago’s West Side. She’d received a notice that her check was being held due to insufficient information. My mother was mumbling under her breath that all they wanted to know is where my father was, and that she had answered that question many times before. Heck, I was wondering myself where he was. If he had been there, I wouldn’t have been freezing to death on that bus.
Tomorrow I'll think fondly of Dad. Which is odd, because I hated him when he was alive.
On Father's Day you may get another "interesting" tie, the latest golf gadget or a pair of wild boxer shorts. And then your kids may do something that really makes you feel like a king. Soak it all in, because you deserve it and it's good for your children to honor you.
But as you're celebrating, don't forget that you're also a son, and it's good for you to honor your father or father figure.
A growing number of researchers and professionals recognize the importance of family history as they seek to better understand human behavior. When I speak to groups of dads, I often bring up generational family issues to try to help men gain a better perspective on their own challenges. I ask a series of questions to bring these issues to the surface.