by Ken R Canfield, Ph.D.

There are differing opinions about Valentine’s Day. Some couples—and dads—use it as an opportunity to go all-out in expressing love to their wives and children. At the other extreme, some view it as a “Hallmark holiday”—created by greeting card, candy and flower companies to guarantee an annual bump in sales—and boycott the red hearts and chocolate.

In some ways, all the attention given to Valentine’s Day in stores and on social media creates expectations for all guys to come through with something special. And we don’t want those we love to think we’re just going through the motions. But each relationship is unique, whether it’s a couple or father and child, and it’s fine to take an approach that works for you—as long as it also works for your spouse or child, and makes them feel loved and appreciated.

I was pleasantly surprised to see how many great ideas about Valentine’s Day are already at fathers.com, so let me simply direct you to some of those for further reading:

3 Ways to Influence Kids’ Relationships – looks at the bigger picture behind this holiday and what you do as a father.

5 Ways to Win Valentine’s Day with Your Kids

Valentine’s Day Tips for Dads of Daughters – and Sons

3 Valentine Gifts Your Wife Will Love

6 Tips for Husbands on Valentine’s Day (Including One that’s “Naughty”)

Also, I hope you’ll share with other dads about what works for you and your family. I know most guys are hungry for practical tips and ideas for their fathering. So, please leave a comment at our Facebook page.