Several years ago in December, we posed this question:
The goal of the exercise was to think about what we might do differently during the Christmas season if we knew this was our last one. It’s a sober thought, but one worth considering. You can read that article here.
As is often the case, our “what if” fathering exercise hit home with a few dads in unexpected ways. In particular, Bill, a former NCF staff member, ran into health issues that year, battling a rare liver disease and then discovering that he had prostate cancer on top of that.
Bill’s children were all teens and adults, and when he received the diagnosis, he thought first of them, and he began thinking very seriously about Christmas. Though he didn’t know if that December would be his last, it was the first time he went through the season with a real sense that his Christmases were numbered.
Here is what Bill wrote about Christmas gifts:
“What I want to give to each child, you can’t buy at a store. I want each child to know how much I love them … how important they are to me, how I think about them constantly. I want them to know how proud I am of them and how pleased I am with them. I want to spend time with each one during the holiday season … time alone with each. Time walking and talking about their future, their plans and their goals. [And] I want to laugh with each of them, enjoying them and their personalities.”
Bill’s situation gave him a wake-up call—a bright, loud warning signal—about his priorities. Consider this your warning signal, dad. If you were in a similar situation, what thoughts would go through your mind? Would your priorities change?
Life is too short not to make the most of your opportunities this Christmas. Don’t wait until it’s too late to start thinking about and acting upon the most important gifts you can give to your children.
How about you, dad? What would you do differently during the holidays if you knew your days were numbered? Make plans to do it … and share your insights with other guys on our Facebook page.