Valentine’s Day: Make them Feel Loved

by Ken R Canfield, Ph.D.

There are differing opinions about Valentine’s Day. Some couples—and dads—use it as an opportunity to go all-out in expressing love to their wives and children. At the other extreme, some view it as a “Hallmark holiday”—created by greeting card, candy and flower companies to guarantee an annual bump in sales—and boycott the red hearts and chocolate.

In some ways, all the attention given to Valentine’s Day in stores and on social media creates expectations for all guys to come through with something special. And we don’t want those we love to think we’re just going through the motions. But each relationship is unique, whether it’s a couple or father and child, and it’s fine to take an approach that works for you—as long as it also works for your spouse or child, and makes them feel loved and appreciated.

I was pleasantly surprised to see how many great ideas about Valentine’s Day are already at, so let me simply direct you to some of those for further reading:

3 Ways to Influence Kids’ Relationships – looks at the bigger picture behind this holiday and what you do as a father.

5 Ways to Win Valentine’s Day with Your Kids

Valentine’s Day Tips for Dads of Daughters – and Sons

3 Valentine Gifts Your Wife Will Love

6 Tips for Husbands on Valentine’s Day (Including One that’s “Naughty”)

Also, I hope you’ll share with other dads about what works for you and your family. I know most guys are hungry for practical tips and ideas for their fathering. So, please leave a comment at our Facebook page.


Watch the replay of the Fathering Breakthrough Event

Join Dr. Ken Canfield and a handful of friends and partners as we give an update about our efforts to inspire and equip fathers all over the world.

There may be no more important work than turning the hearts of fathers to their children, and that’s what this is all about. We’re seeking to repair, rebuild and restore effective fathering for the benefit of children and families everywhere.