It’s what most of us thought in that moment, but don’t worry. There’s really no such thing as “being ready,” because becoming a dad is an overwhelming experience. It’s an emotional high like nothing you’ve ever felt before, accompanied by lots of big, scary, life-altering thoughts about having your own child walking around in this big world, watching you, following you through life and eventually carrying on your family line, your legacy. What will she become? What strengths and weaknesses will he have?

Yes, these are big and scary thoughts, but you’re up to the task—or at least you can grow into it. Remember, billions of men have gone through this, and they felt inadequate and unprepared, and yet most of them figured out a way to make it work even without the resources to help dads that are available in today’s world. You’ll figure it out too, and the fact that you’ve come here is a great sign.

There’s a lot to learn and think through during these months leading up to the big event—a lot of tips and advice to work through. So settle in and take your time.

First, know that being a dad is one of the most important roles you’ll ever have. Fathers make contributions to the lives of their children that are unique and irreplaceable. Even if some people or some areas of our society don’t value the role of fatherhood, know that you’re changing the world, one life at a time. Research shows that children thrive when they have involved fathers; many of the ills in our land can be addressed on some level by getting fathers more actively engaged with their kids.

Second, even if you don’t come from a family where fathers were present and involved, you can be an overcomer. You can become the dad you never had. It’s often these men who are the most committed and inspiring examples of positive, responsible fatherhood. Maybe that’s you.

And third, being a great dad isn’t always easy, but it’s relatively simple. There are challenges and tough decisions along the way, but what your child needs from you is pretty basic. It all starts with showing up—being there: spending time with your child, being a consistent, positive presence in his or her life.

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